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Four Research-Based Tools for a Healthy Marriage- Part II: Scanning for Positives and Affirming Successes

What does it mean to “see” another person?  I would propose that for me one characteristic of “being seen” would include another person noticing the good in me.  According to research, this can be accomplished through scanning for positives and affirming successes.  These two tools from the work of John Gottman and other marriage researchers deal with the topic of recognizing the positive in one’s partner.

The first research-based tool, functional conflict style, dealt specifically with moments of change, growth, or disagreement.  These two research-based tools, however, deal with the every day interactions in which every couple engages.

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