As mentioned in the Beautiful Moments post, my friend Melissa inspired the “Why Not?” practice as an outcropping of “Beautiful Moments.” The basic idea is this:
There are things that are very possible and would bring us joy, but we often don’t do these things. Why not just do them and see what happens?
The classic example the two of us often refer to is walking through the grass in bare feet. She has a lovely story where her four-year-old daughter imparted this wisdom to her one day in the back yard:
“Do you know how I know spring is here?”
“How?” Melissa asked.
“It’s because we can go outside with our shoes off. We need to be barefoot so we can feel the grass between our toes. Take off your shoes, Mommy.”
Last spring Mel and I started practicing “Why not” moments, and I felt it added some much needed lightness to my life. After two very hard years, I had gotten so serious about my mental and spiritual recovery, I had at times forgotten that the goal of the work is to experience all of life more fully, not just the things that are difficult. In essence “why not” moments give permission and space to engage in play.
Per the usual, the two of us shared our moments via text:
I am just learning how to play again; how to make life magical. How to find the silky seedlings in dried out pods while walking and set them free in the wind one by one. How to grab hand-fulls of leaves and smoosh them into my face before tossing them high into the air and watching them fall.
How to whisper stories to trees while I press my hand to the rough bark and listen for an answer. (See The Silent Friends video).
It is good learning.
This last week my husband Jamey and I took Sawyer (our five-year-old) to see the Lego exhibit at the Columbus Museum of Art.
This past weekend, I attended Sawyer’s best friend Sarah’s birthday party. Her parents are super-cool, fun people who turned the party into a science themed adventure complete with a balloon pit, Easter egg/scavenger hunt, and color-explosion science lab.
I snapped some photos, and gained some inspiration. (I had a request from a workshop yesterday to host a Mindful Play Learning Lab that consists of a children’s birthday party sans kids… Yes. I shall do this.)